A Voice for Karen: 'A slap in the face,' hope for others

This story is the fourth in a four-part series on the life and death of Hays resident Karen Schumacher, who died at the hands of her husband in 2022.

Part 1: A Voice for Karen: Living behind a curtain of silence
Part 2: A Voice for Karen: Leaving and going back
Part 3: A Voice for Karen: He took her away from us; hope for others

If you are a victim of domestic violence, find help here

By CRISTINA JANNEY
Hays Post

On April 5, more than two years after Karen Schumacher's death, Jay Schumacher, her husband, entered into a plea agreement on three felony charges in connection to her death.

Although Jay had been originally arrested on a charge of first-degree murder, he agreed to plea no contest to voluntary manslaughter, aggravated battery and mistreatment of a dependent adult.

On all three charges, Jay entered an Alford plea. Under an Alford plea, the defendant does not have to admit to the criminal act and can maintain innocence.

Schumacher was sentenced on Thursday to the maximum allowed under the plea agreement—122 months in prison with credit for almost three years of time served.

Schumacher’s attorneys requested he be placed in custody of the Larned State Correctional Facility for mental health treatment.

Schumacher was evaluated and found to not have a mental illness and did not qualify to serve any of his sentences at Larned.

Jay Schumacher's sister testified at his sentencing, saying his brother was "not a monster."

Jay Schumacher declined to speak on his own behalf during the sentencing. He expressed no emotion during the proceedings.

When the plea agreement was announced, Jeremiah Schumacher, Karen’s son, called the recommended sentence a “slap in the face.”

"He beat my mom for 40 years, and you're gonna give him this," Jeremiah told a Hays Post reporter days after the plea agreement was announced. "What he did was not accidental. What he did was quite deliberate. Did he snap? Maybe. Sure. But it wasn't manslaughter."

Jeremiah said the courts should have considered his father’s pattern of violence.

“You would do this for a serial killer, but you won’t do this for a one-off,” Jeremiah said.

“I can tell you how he beat me, beat my mom was a bouncer and beat the hell out of people just at random, and none of that matters?” he said. “None of the things that we witnessed matters.”

“It’s just what happened that day and only that day. That’s not right,” Jeremiah said. “That doesn’t give a victim of 40 years any kind of justice.”

Jay was never arrested or convicted for violence or threats against Karen, Jeremiah or violations of the Karen’s protection from abuse order.

Had Jay been convicted of any prior bad acts, that could have resulted in a longer sentence based on Kansas sentencing guidelines. As the case stands, he had no criminal record before his arrest in connection with Karen's death.

Jeremiah said he felt the systems that were supposed to protect him and his mother had let them down.

“I think the judicial system would have handled my mom’s case better had law enforcement done their jobs,” Jeremiah said.

Kayci, Jeremiah's wife, sat knee to knee with her husband.

“I guarantee if someone did that to a family member of yours, you would want justice. This isn’t OK. It’s wrong,” Kayci said, crying.

Jeremiah; Kayci; Sue, Karen sister; and Scarlett Deutscher, Karen's long-time friend, all gave victim impact statements at the sentencing.

All four said they hoped Jay would be sentenced to more than the 10 years allowed in the plea agreement. They detailed some of the horrors that Karen shared with them about her life with Jay.

Leaving the courtroom after hearing the 10-year sentence, Jeremiah looked physically and emotionally defeated as friends and family attempted to comfort him.

Judge Glenn Braun sentenced Schumacher to the maximum sentence allowed by law based on the charges that Jay Schumacher pleaded to.

Look in the mirror; we all share blame

Judge Braun, who is set to retire as a full-time judge today, spoke at length about his frustration about how the system failed Karen, who he regarded as a personal friend.

The two met when Karen was a dispatcher and Braun was the Hays city prosecutor.

"She was as she was described here today," Braun said. "She was friendly. She was engaging. She was cooperative. She was hard-working. ... It was a joy and pleasure to know her."

Braun said he heard the words failure of the system.

"They're right," he said. "The system fails victims of domestic abuse all of the time. Why? Because we as a society have not accepted the idea that spouses beat other spouses."

He said every Wednesday, he deals with domestic violence cases in which no contact orders are lifted.

"Repeatedly, I hear 'I want to go back home. It wasn't that bad. It's the cops' fault,'" Braun said.

Police are mandated to arrest and jail offenders because "society is finally starting to recognize that this is a disease, a problem, and it's more pervasive than we ever wanted to believe," Braun said.

He said the O.J. Simpson trial prompted action in America to protect domestic violence victims.

He said two things happened in California after that case hit the news. Domestic violence helplines were flooded, which might be expected.

What was not expected was women leaving domestic shelters and returning to their abusive spouses, saying, 'I can live with being beaten, but my children can't live without me. It's better for my kids to take the beating than to die at the hands of my abuser,'" Braun said.

Braun said people are asking why Karen didn't leave.

"Because when you live in a life of abuse, emotional, physical — when loved ones are threatened, or you believe they are threatened, you do what you have to do to protect them," Braun said.

Braun addressed Jay Schumahcer, saying he bares responsibility for Karen's death, but so does society.

"Did the system fail? Yeah, it did," Braun said. "All these people who stood up here today, they failed too. Could they have done more? Could law enforcement have done more? Maybe. If they had more information. Society failed, and that's what brought us here today."

Braun also addressed the issue of the plea agreement.

He said the judicial system can't function without plea agreements. The courts do not have enough attorneys, prosecutors and judges to take all cases to trial, and the taxpayers aren't willing to pay for the courts to be staffed to do so.

"If every case went to trial, the system would paralyzed, and justice would never be served," Braun said.

He added, "People will walk out and want to blame Mr. Cunningham. They'll want to blame the police officers. They'll want to blame me. Fine. They better look in the mirror, but they share in that blame just like society in general shares in a little bit of the responsibility and blame for the loss of Karen."

Fixing a broken system

Jennifer Hecker, executive director of Options Domestic and Sexual Violence Services, said domestic violence needs to be considered a community health epidemic. Until it is addressed this way, it will be a problem without a solution, she said.

She said domestic violence is not strictly a personal choice.

"When we think strictly about what's legal and not legal in terms of domestic violence, then all of that responsibility falls on law enforcement or the court system," Hecker said. "There are a lot of elements of domestic violence that are not illegal. The physical violence is illegal, but the many other [aspects] are not."

Hecker said abusers can seize control over finances, isolate victims from friends and family, and inflict mental and emotional abuse. None of this is illegal, yet she said they can be the most devastating to the victim.

"Yes, the system is broken, [and will be] until juries understand the dynamics of domestic violence. There is more we can do to educate our community as a whole around the dynamics and danger around domestic violence," Hecker said.

"I think we need to do more to hold perpetrators accountable for these crimes and to act more swiftly. That is why programs like the lethality assessment protocols are so important because they strengthen the system that will keep people safe."

Knowing the danger

Hecker said some of the patterns seen in Jay and Karen’s marriage are common in other domestic violence cases. The average victim takes seven to 10 times to leave an abusive relationship and stay gone.

The reasons why abuse victims stay with their abusers are complex. Some of the reasons include a lack of finances, concerns over their children, lack of transportation and lack of housing. Domestic violence is the leading cause of homelessness for women with children in the United States.

There also may be pressure from their faith community or family to stay in the relationship or marriage, she said.

The Lethality Assessment Program was implemented in 2024 in Hays. Law enforcement officers ask domestic violence victims a series of questions about their relationship, which helps them assess their risk of being killed by their abuser. The officer then connects them live on the phone with a domestic violence advocate.

Hecker said, "… victims become so used to minimizing the harm that's happening to them so they can survive it emotionally and mentally so they can attempt some healing for themselves," Hecker said. "But with that often come blinders about how much more violent and dangerous that situation is becoming."

Hays Police Chief Don Scheibler said he believes the police have been more successful in helping victims of domestic violence get the assistance that they need using the assessment.

"At the Hays Police Department, we know that in our community, you are more likely to be killed or seriously injured by a person that says 'they love you' or that 'they care for you' than you are by a stranger.

"We know that by the time domestic violence is reported to law enforcement, the violence has already occurred multiple times. So, it is vital for the safety of the victim that once we become aware of the violence that we do all we can to get them help."

Scheibler added he also believes the Lethality Assessment Program helps law enforcement better document the situation, which will allow the prosecutors and the courts to make better-informed decisions in the handling of criminal cases involving the abusers.

Scheibler said he favors a holistic approach to preventing domestic violence.

"We cannot miss the opportunity to help the victims when they ask for assistance. Trauma-informed approaches by law enforcement, such as the Lethality Assessment Program, will be vital moving forward," he said.

Scheibler also knew Karen personally from her time working as a dispatcher. He said he has struggled with why Karen never reported the abuse to one of her co-workers.

"It is important for people to understand that Karen was a beautiful person. She came to work every day with a smile on her face. She was kind, companionate and a joy to be around. She was quick to smile and quick to laugh," Scheibler said.

"Karen did not look or act like a victim of domestic violence, and to my knowledge, she never told her supervisors the abuse she was facing at home. As a dispatcher, she would have known what our response was going be to her reporting that she was a victim of domestic violence, so I can only speculate why she didn't."

Unfortunately, Karen's being in the law enforcement profession may have made it more difficult for her to ask for help, Scheibler said.

"Law enforcement is the solver of community problems. When people are in crisis or need help, they call us, and we respond," Scheibler said. "First responders excel at helping others but often struggle to ask for help. By the time she began working in the law enforcement field, she had already been in an abusive relationship for almost 20 years.

"She may have normalized the abuse, which is common for victims. The most tragic thing about why victims of domestic violence often don't report the abuse is that their abuser is the person that they love."

He added, "Knowing what I know now about Karen's situation, I suspect she enjoyed coming to work at the law enforcement center as it was a place that she could go to and feel safe. Nobody was going to hurt her while she was here. I wish we had known Karen needed our help, and we could have intervened."

Unlike Judge Braun, Scheibler said he did not blame Karen, her family and friends, co-workers, or society for Karen's death.

"The blame for her death and the abuse she suffered falls totally upon her abuser," he said. "I am proud of the work of the Hays Police Department did in bringing him to justice and holding him accountable for the horrific things he did to Karen. He has been found guilty in a court of law and sentenced to prison; it just doesn’t feel like it is enough."

Lasting effects

Hecker said community members need to understand the far reach of domestic violence in the community and its lasting effects on families.

“That is so important to understand that there is a ripple effect to domestic and sexual violence that impacts not just the victim but everyone in their circle. It’s like dropping a rock in a pond,” she said.

For victims who survive the abuse, there are lasting physical, psychological and financial effects.

"It can be a lifetime or decades of financial instability because they are trying to get back on their feet," Hecker said. "Getting access to mental health care is expensive, and there are financial aspects of the physical abuse. They're paying medical bills."

Hecker said these burdens often result in housing instability for the survivor and their children.

The brain development of children who witness violence is also affected.

“For children, it creates a sense of mistrust in their family. ‘I can’t trust the parent who’s hurting us, and I can’t trust the parent who’s not protecting us,'" Hecker said.

Jeremiah said the violence in his home has definitely affected him. Trust is a significant issue.

"I also put up a lot of walls. I've gotten a lot better throughout the years just because I got away from it, but there are always things," he said.

“I can’t hear the sound of a belt snapping. If you put leather together — that sound freaks me out to this day. [Kayci] can attest to it. I lose it.” Jeremiah said.

Kayci said, touching Jeremiah’s knee, “Our kids think it's funny because they don’t know what he went through. I have to try to explain to them.”

Jeremiah said even being in a loud room unsettles him.

“Me losing it or becoming more upset that I need to because my kids are being loud ... because if I was loud, I was going to get the hell beat out of me,” Jeremiah said.

Losing his mother made things even worse.

“I know it really, really, really screwed with my mind,” he said. “I know I can’t focus anymore. It’s hard to focus on things. Then, the hyper fixation on things. It’s like all of a sudden, I got huge ADHD,” Jeremiah said.

“I’m trying to be a better person, trying to be someone who my mom would be proud of. I don’t know. It’s just hard in general,” he said.

A message of hope for others

Hecker said the first thing loved ones can do to help a domestic violence victim is to believe them.

"They have people in their lives questioning them whether or not it even happened and what did they do to make that person so angry that they hit them," Hecker said. "Blame turns to shame, and when people experience shame, they stop acting in their own self-defense because they believe they deserved it."

Hecker said the second thing loved ones can do is to help the victim develop a plan to leave safely.

"The first thing people say is leave, leave right now. Nothing else matters. Just leave," she said. "And it's the most dangerous thing a victim can do."

Eighty percent of the domestic violence victims who are killed by their partners are killed within the first few weeks after they leave.

Options provides 24-hour crisis services for domestic violence victims. This includes safety planning to help victims plan the best time to leave, determine where to go and gather necessary documents.

Some abusers will insist on holding items such as driver’s licenses, bank cards, social security cards or green cards as a means of controlling the victim.

Options provides a shelter in Hays at no cost to the women.

Moving forward

Kayci said her hope for her family and her daughter is a life that is different.

“I hope the members within the family can always rise above,” she said. “To think of this as something that would pass down to generations is really hard to take,” Kayci said.

She said she especially thinks of her 16-year-old daughter, Ella, and her future.

"… teenage girls cannot always be kind to others, and I've always tried to tell her that a person doesn't define you," Kayci said. "You are you. You define yourself. If you don't love yourself, no one else can ever love you. That I will stand by. I never felt as strong about that until this with Karen."

Kayci said she believes Jay broke not only Karen's body but also her spirit.

“I believe in my heart if [Karen] would have loved herself enough to be worthy and know she was worthy to get out, she would have left, but he took that from her. He took that self-worth and crumbled that, and she didn’t love herself anymore.”

Jeremiah added, “She didn’t see herself as being worthy to be away from it.”

He said if anything positive can come of this tragedy, he hopes his mother’s death opens other people’s eyes to domestic violence.

“It is not just about the person that is being abused. It is about the people around you and noticing things that are happening and not being quiet,” Jeremiah said.

He said if he could say anything to other women in his mother’s situation, he would say, “Get out if it’s happening to you. Get out. Don’t wait until it’s too late.”

Jeremiah pleaded with his mother over and over to leave Jay. Even more than two years after her death, he still wishes he had one last chance to tell her she was worthy and try to convince her to leave for a better life.

"I wish I could have told her to get out, that we would have taken care of her, that she didn't need to live the way she did," he said. "I know I told her those things, but I know I didn't tell her enough. I wish I could go back and tell her again."

How to get help

If you are a survivor of domestic or sexual violence, you can receive help in a variety of ways. You can walk into an Options office at 2716 Plaza, Hays, or 1480 W. Fourth, Colby. You can call Options' 24-hour helpline at 1-800-794-4624 or text HOPE to 847411.

The Options website, https://help4abuse.org/, offers a live chat option or video conference with an advocate.

The website has a safe escape button that allows you to quickly close out of the website and erase your cookies, so anyone who is on the computer after you will not be able to see that you have been on the website.

Options has a free app for Android and Apple devices called "My Mobile Options."